1. Complimenting your friend every day and using “hey you :)” is bad.
I literally fawn over my best friend daily. She’s absolutely gorgeous. Difference is, she’s mature enough to actually know that any compliments I pay her are being paid in a platonic sense, and not indicative of romance. If you’re close enough friends, you’ll know that. Also, maybe it’s just me, but I use “hey you!” if I haven’t spoken to someone in what feels like a while, not if I’m trying to flirt.
2. Don’t talk to a friend more than you talk to your girlfriend.
Again, I talk to my best friend every day. For more hours than I talk to my girlfriend. This is mostly a circumstantial thing, rather than intentional, but regardless. Also, is this person really saying you should talk to a new girlfriend more than your well-established friend-of-several-years? You’re not allowed to talk to friends because they’ll depend on you too much? Because apparently, girls can’t make their own choices.
3. Don’t try to hook up with them after breaking up with an ex
This is good advice… but it’s done by girls, too. I know from experience. Lots of experience.
4. Don’t fall in love with someone else
Wait, what? #2 was “don’t talk to her too much or she might become dependent on you”, and now #4 is “don’t stop talking to her as much because she’ll be depending on you”. This is insane. If your friend falling in love with someone will “ruin” the friendship, you’re really not fit to be in platonic relationships.
5. Don’t hook up with her
This is basically #3 again… did she run out after only 4 points? Regardless, the way it’s written here, all of the blame is placed on the male (hooking up whilst drunk, seriously considering romance, etc). All the blame is pinned on the man, and not the woman. I don’t even think this is a feminist post, either. I think this has just become so normalised in our society that men are considered to be held responsible for everything.
This entire post reads like something written by a girl who expected or felt entitled to more from friendships in the past, and was upset when things didn’t pan out the way she wanted.
I don’t understand some things. Platonic is a romantic relationship without sexual activities. I don’t understand why people uses it while describing friendship. Or does it mean both, because all my sources says something else but the Tumblr says it means that.
(Anyhow I agree with this post I just wanted to ask because my confusion level is over 9000)
From the dictionary: ”a close relationship between two persons in which sexual desire is nonexistent or has been suppressed or sublimated”.
It can mean a romantic relationship with no sex, although personally, I would say that romance requires sexual attraction as an integral part of it (but that’s an entirely different topic). For the most part, in common usage, it’s used to describe friendships, particularly close ones.