July 24, 2014
5 Ways Men Ruin Platonic Relationships

sasukes-mistress:

saiyajinlegacy:

1. Complimenting your friend every day and using “hey you :)” is bad.
I literally fawn over my best friend daily. She’s absolutely gorgeous. Difference is, she’s mature enough to actually know that any compliments I pay her are being paid in a platonic sense, and not indicative of romance. If you’re close enough friends, you’ll know that. Also, maybe it’s just me, but I use “hey you!” if I haven’t spoken to someone in what feels like a while, not if I’m trying to flirt.

2. Don’t talk to a friend more than you talk to your girlfriend.
Again, I talk to my best friend every day. For more hours than I talk to my girlfriend. This is mostly a circumstantial thing, rather than intentional, but regardless. Also, is this person really saying you should talk to a new girlfriend more than your well-established friend-of-several-years? You’re not allowed to talk to friends because they’ll depend on you too much? Because apparently, girls can’t make their own choices.

3. Don’t try to hook up with them after breaking up with an ex
This is good advice… but it’s done by girls, too. I know from experience. Lots of experience.

4. Don’t fall in love with someone else
Wait, what? #2 was “don’t talk to her too much or she might become dependent on you”, and now #4 is “don’t stop talking to her as much because she’ll be depending on you”. This is insane. If your friend falling in love with someone will “ruin” the friendship, you’re really not fit to be in platonic relationships.

5. Don’t hook up with her
This is basically #3 again… did she run out after only 4 points? Regardless, the way it’s written here, all of the blame is placed on the male (hooking up whilst drunk, seriously considering romance, etc). All the blame is pinned on the man, and not the woman. I don’t even think this is a feminist post, either. I think this has just become so normalised in our society that men are considered to be held responsible for everything.

This entire post reads like something written by a girl who expected or felt entitled to more from friendships in the past, and was upset when things didn’t pan out the way she wanted.

I don’t understand some things. Platonic is a romantic relationship without sexual activities. I don’t understand why people uses it while describing friendship. Or does it mean both, because all my sources says something else but the Tumblr says it means that.

(Anyhow I agree with this post I just wanted to ask because my confusion level is over 9000)

From the dictionary:  ”a close relationship between two persons in which sexual desire is nonexistent or has been suppressed or sublimated”.

It can mean a romantic relationship with no sex, although personally, I would say that romance requires sexual attraction as an integral part of it (but that’s an entirely different topic). For the most part, in common usage, it’s used to describe friendships, particularly close ones.

July 24, 2014
5 Ways Men Ruin Platonic Relationships

1. Complimenting your friend every day and using “hey you :)” is bad.
I literally fawn over my best friend daily. She’s absolutely gorgeous. Difference is, she’s mature enough to actually know that any compliments I pay her are being paid in a platonic sense, and not indicative of romance. If you’re close enough friends, you’ll know that. Also, maybe it’s just me, but I use “hey you!” if I haven’t spoken to someone in what feels like a while, not if I’m trying to flirt.

2. Don’t talk to a friend more than you talk to your girlfriend.
Again, I talk to my best friend every day. For more hours than I talk to my girlfriend. This is mostly a circumstantial thing, rather than intentional, but regardless. Also, is this person really saying you should talk to a new girlfriend more than your well-established friend-of-several-years? You’re not allowed to talk to friends because they’ll depend on you too much? Because apparently, girls can’t make their own choices.

3. Don’t try to hook up with them after breaking up with an ex
This is good advice… but it’s done by girls, too. I know from experience. Lots of experience.

4. Don’t fall in love with someone else
Wait, what? #2 was “don’t talk to her too much or she might become dependent on you”, and now #4 is “don’t stop talking to her as much because she’ll be depending on you”. This is insane. If your friend falling in love with someone will “ruin” the friendship, you’re really not fit to be in platonic relationships.

5. Don’t hook up with her
This is basically #3 again… did she run out after only 4 points? Regardless, the way it’s written here, all of the blame is placed on the male (hooking up whilst drunk, seriously considering romance, etc). All the blame is pinned on the man, and not the woman. I don’t even think this is a feminist post, either. I think this has just become so normalised in our society that men are considered to be held responsible for everything.

This entire post reads like something written by a girl who expected or felt entitled to more from friendships in the past, and was upset when things didn’t pan out the way she wanted.

July 24, 2014
Marvel Superheroes

Perhaps I’m just on the wrong side of tumblr, but I find it interesting that feminists went crazy over a white woman replacing Thor and how it’s a victory for women… but I don’t see anyone making a big deal out of Ms Marvel getting some well-deserved attention in the form of Kamala Khan.

Maybe it’s because she’s Muslim or South Asian and therefore doesn’t represent the vast majority of modern feminists.

Or maybe they don’t like the idea of a “more oppressed” member of their group stealing the limelight.

Or maybe it just isn’t that big of a deal - reviving an already female character isn’t nearly as much of a “victory” to them as taking the title from a male character.

Or, perhaps, it’s just a combination of the three.

July 24, 2014

kalistik said: I think, in general, feminists (at least the ones I have associated with) are against cases such as the one you brought up. My perspective is that in general women are not considered capable of sexual abuse because of their femininity, and men who show "weakness," the victims, also suffer from this distorted view of femininity. By seeking equality we would make sure female abusers got just punishment and male victims weren't ridiculed.

avulcanpointofview:

Generally, yes. However, the most important point is that these feminists do not actively get involved in the movement (unless it is convenient for them, like signing petitions and attending pre-organised protests). The “general” majority of feminists are similar to the general majority of Christians in the UK - very few actively take part in their religion, but they identify as such when asked or even speaking about related topics.

For example, any time a law that would make things more equal for men was going to be passed, feminists (active, participating feminists) would rally against it and prevent it being passed. 

The “general” feminists - the apparent majority of decent people - did not prevent this from happening. They did not rally against the “radicals” and prevent them from doing harm to men, or further inducing inequality.
These are a few examples I’ve found compiled by a very good source:
http://anti-feminism-pro-equality.tumblr.com/badwomen

Participants of an activist movement do not count as participants if they do not participate. And that is where my problem lies, personally, with feminism. Well, that, and the idea that feminism as a word is far too symbolic for females, and gendering the name of a movement will never be able to bring about equality. It will always be about the gender in the title. Which is why I prefer when people use the gender-neutral term “egalitarian”, or at the very least “humanitarian”.

However, in my original post on the topic you mentioned, I didn’t bring feminism into the mix at all (I don’t believe blame solves a problem, only pushing forward in spite of who’s to blame for a better future). I only mentioned feminism eventually in my replies to one of the posters I had a discussion with, as it was an inevitable part of the discussion.

Just to reiterate - I do not hate feminists, per se. I disagree with the usage of a gendered term in equality (it seems very… illogical to me), but my biggest problem is that the radicals continue to cause rifts and inequalities between the genders, but feminism does not give a priority to preventing or mending these rifts. I do, very much, disagree with this.

July 23, 2014
These (aside from 3) would be good advice for feminists to follow, rather than (in the case of one) hand-waving away extremists who do actual harm to people, or (in the case of two) blindly ignoring evidence that contradicts their beliefs.

These (aside from 3) would be good advice for feminists to follow, rather than (in the case of one) hand-waving away extremists who do actual harm to people, or (in the case of two) blindly ignoring evidence that contradicts their beliefs.

(via gabzgirl)

July 23, 2014
lucinater:

i love pokemon shaming omg

End PokéShaming!PokéWalk 2014!

lucinater:

i love pokemon shaming omg

End PokéShaming!
PokéWalk 2014!

(via poke-problems)

July 23, 2014

grimlock-king said: My friends actually made a personal Headcanon about tumblr saying SJW's are Templars trying to divide us further so we won't fight back when the time comes for them to take over xD

The Templars sought to bring Order to Chaos. Their methods were extreme but their goal was sincere. You may even compare them to the Borg in Star Trek. 

Both of these forces are far too intelligent, and far too understandable, to be SJWs. 

July 23, 2014

hotwinger:

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July 23, 2014

wocinsolidarity:

fuckallies:

On average, you have a 1 in 18,989 chance of being murdered

A trans person has a 1 in 12 chance of being murdered

The average life span of a cis person is about 75-90 

The average life expectancy of a trans person is 23-30 years old

75% of people killed in anti LGBT hate crimes are poc

Think about this the next time you go crying over “cisphobia” and “reverse racism”

MESSAGE 

1. Sources required.

2. Just because a problem is “less urgent” than another problem, doesn’t erase that problem. Again, if you wanna use this logic, there’s no such thing as oppression in any country outside of countries like Gaza or African states. 




Think about this next time you go crying over “transphobia” and “racism”.

(Source: fuckoffallies)

July 22, 2014

pardonmewhileipanic:

mordicaifeed:

concernedresidentofbakerstreet:

regencyduchess:

Whilst in Sydney in 1994, a man apparently tries to assassinate Prince Charles. And not a single fuck was given by His Royal Highness.

THEY’RE ALL JUST STARING AND JUDGING

"How rude…this bodyguard just shoved me!"

I want to be this rich and indifferent one day

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