I call myself an egalitarian, and I do genuinely believe in equality for both genders.
But I have been incredibly one-sided in what I’ve been blogging. I always felt “well women have far more people looking out for them than men, so I should focus on male issues”.
I say men and women in the chromosomal sense, I never apply gender roles to any of my solutions and I’m firmly against the concept of gender altogether. Transgender issues are tricky for me, because - in order to transition from one gender to another, one must first accept that gender (ie. a socially constructed set of rules by which certain sexes are expected to abide) exists.
I’m more of the opinion that gender should not exist, and therefore whilst no one can “transition” from one identity to the next, neither can they be forced to follow (or shunned for dissociating with) any gender roles that’re applied to them.
A lot of people don’t really understand that, unfortunately. Still, hopefully one day!
But yeah, I know that giving one side more attention isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but there’re two main problems with it:
1. It allows a minority (male rights) to be blotted out by the misandrists. Acknowledging in passing that problems exist won’t help fix them, so more active activism is required. While womens rights aren’t necessarily a minority, there’s a lot of sexism and misogyny within the feminist movement (painting all women as helpless victims, or hopeless at video games (Sarkeesian), etc). I think it’s everyone’s responsibility to prevent these problems from harming others, regardless of gender.
2. For my own sanity it’ll help to be a bit more broad in what I post. When the majority of feminist posts I see are misandrist, over the course of several years… it’s gotten to the point that I actually have to put genuine thought and concentration into not immediately dismissing womens issues. My automatic, gut reaction when I see posts about genuine problems is “it’s probably more propaganda” - because that’s exactly what the majority of what I’ve seen has been.
But I know that isn’t the extent of womens’ problems. For instance, while radical feminists scream about society’s responsibility to teach men not to rape, girls are out there being raped by genuine criminals.
So I figure if I start exposing myself more to genuine problems, and start to see more genuine issues rather than the mainstream misandry/misogyny, then it’ll do absolute wonders for my mental health, which I have to admit has been on the decline for the past 3 years since my friend unfortunately roped me into getting a tumblr account.